I acknowledge the tremendous bounty of those whose many decades of experience and research informs my practice. My somatic/body centred therapeutic understanding is influenced by the wonderful work of Gabor Mate, Bessel Van der Kolk, Pema Chodron, Jeff Foster and my own teacher and mentor Cindy Aulby.
For understanding the wisdom of our feelings Karla McLaren has a holistic perspective on how to trust and use emotions. I have found the books of Harriet Lerner an excellent resource, particularly the Dance of Anger and the Dance of Intimacy.
Many of my clients resonate with the work of Dr. Elaine Aaron’s book on being a Highly Sensitive Person.
The tools and perspectives of Hand in Hand Parenting have been hugely helpful for me and I often recommend them - they take some time to learn and practice but they work wonders.
I’d hazard a guess you’re a great friend to your loved ones.
Old friends are one of the highlights of this life. They know us well, they empathise with us when we struggle.
What would life feel like if you were that kind of friend to yourself?
In Praise of Rest
Recently I’ve been considering the pace at which we live our lives, and reflecting on the importance of rest and taking it slow wherever possible.
Consider the natural world to which we ultimately belong: all things rest. Its authority is in day and night, in seasons and their rhythms. Life knows that rest is crucial.
Feel It All
How would it be to welcome the gentle rain of your tears, allow the wildfire of your anger burn to re-energise your inner landscape, or witness the sunshine of your joy nurturing new growth, knowing it too will pass?
Here and Now
I’ve been noticing the nature of human striving, our tendency to locate fulfilment in something that is out of reach. What’s curious is also this: when we get what we're yearning for, another site of incompleteness replaces it...